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DAY 14: 30 Day NO-BUY Challenge

Start With How You Want To Feel

On Day 14 of our 30 Day No Buy Challenge, we learn how to use feeling words to not feel completely stuck when we are frozen in front of our clothes.

It helps us further shift fashion from just a look to a feeling, creating a mind, heart, body connection with what we wear. We are learning to shake off the negative voices, get specific about how we want to feel, and then let our clothes support that intention.

Day 14 also prepares us for the final two weeks of the challenge, when we move into implementation so we have real, on the ground tools to use every time we look at our closets and do not know where to start.

ACTION STEPS

Feeling Words Closet Reset

  1. Notice the blank

    When you stand in your closet and think, I do not know what to wear, pause and name that moment instead of pushing through it.

  2. Clear the noise

    Say out loud, I can do this, I am able, I am talented, I know what I am doing, let us frickin do this.

    Shake your head and body like you are literally shaking off the negative voices.

  3. Choose three feeling words

    Think about what you are doing today and how you want to feel.

    Pick three words, for example:

    • Polished, bold, approachable
    • Comfortable, breezy, friendly
    • Relaxed, open, funky
    • Energized, bright, happy

  4. Use your words as a filter

    Look at your closet and quickly rule out what does not match your feeling words.

    Pull only the pieces that fit the words you chose.

  5. Keep it simple

    Do not pressure yourself to create a brand new outfit. You can repeat something you have worn before, now chosen through your feeling words.

  6. Check in with your body

    Once you are dressed, ask, do I feel the way I wanted to feel.

    If not, swap one piece until it feels aligned.

  7. Repeat tomorrow

    Try using feeling words on ordinary days, not just special events. Let your mood or your desired mood guide your outfit.

FULL TRANSCRIPT

Welcome To Day 14

Hello, I am Casey, your fashion bestie. You are on Day 14 of the 30 Day No Buy Challenge, and together we are sparking a fashion wellness revolution. We are shifting your mindset around clothes to build a healthier relationship with your closet and yourself, so you can show up fully and radiate in what you wear.

Today we are talking about what is happening when we go to our closets and we are just drawing a blank. You go there and you are just like, I do not know what to wear. You are staring at everything and you do not know where to start.

A few things could be happening in that moment.

The floodgates of insecurity might be opening.

Maybe you truly do not know where to start.

Maybe you are tired.

Sometimes there is just too much, too many options, and your brain cannot even compute what is going on or where to begin.

So you just stare.

At this point, you need to give yourself a starting point.

Why Feeling Words Matter

One of the easiest starting points I can give you, especially when your brain does not feel like functioning, is to start with feeling words.

We tend to go to our closets and the first thing we ask is, what do I want to look like, what do I want to wear, what do I want to look like. But that might be very different from how you want to feel.

So instead of thinking about the look, start with how you want to feel that day, or how you want to feel in the situation you are about to go into.

Real Life Examples: Conferences, Parties, Coffee Dates

For me this is different in different occasions.

Example 1, Entrepreneur Conference

Say I am going to an entrepreneur conference. What I want to feel might be polished, bold, and still approachable. So I go to my closet and think:

What feels polished, bold, and still approachable?

Adding in the word “approachable” might help me choose differently than if I did not.

If I just said, I am going to this entrepreneur thing, I might automatically grab my business suit and wear it like I normally do with a collared shirt and the pants or slacks together.

But if I am adding in the word “approachable,” I might just take the blazer and pair it with some jeans, a bold top, and some heels. That combination makes me feel more approachable. It is still polished, it is bold, and it is approachable.

Example 2, Birthday Party

Maybe I am going to a birthday party and my words are comfortable, breezy, and friendly. Then I am able to go into my closet and look for things that fit into comfortable, breezy, and friendly.

This one actually makes me think a little harder, because I naturally gravitate toward a more edgy vibe. Sometimes I have to use these feeling words to feel more in tune with where I am going.

Instead of wearing a leather jacket and combat boots to a kid’s party, I might wear sandals, some flowy breezy pants, and a nice relaxed top.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with me showing up in an edgier vibe at the birthday party, but it can feel better when you feel aligned with your atmosphere.

Example 3, Coffee With Friends

Maybe I am going to coffee with friends and my words are relaxed, open, and funky. The longer you do this, the more interesting words you will come up with, and the more it helps you define what you want to wear that day.

How Feeling Words Help You Choose

When you are looking at your closet with blank eyes, your feeling words help eliminate large parts of your closet. They let you narrow in on the things that matter to you that day.

Let us walk through the process.

You go to your closet. You are drawing a blank and you feel a certain level of frustration. This is something I still use all the time. I literally used it yesterday when I walked into my closet thinking, I do not know what I am wearing today.

So I said, okay, feeling word. Let us bring in the Feeling Words Formula.

Step One, Clear The Noise

First, if you are hearing negative voices, clear the noise.

Say to yourself:

I can do this.

I am able.

I am talented.

I know what I am doing.

Let us frickin do this.

I still clear the noise like this. You are a fly on the wall in my closet. I even shake my head, like I am shaking everything out and resetting my body, and I say:

Okay, okay, okay, let us do this. I got this.

I actually just did it right now as I am talking to you. Shake, shake, shake. Then:

Okay, let us do this. I got this.

Step Two, Choose Your Feeling Words

Next, think about what you are doing that day and how you want to feel, not just what you want to wear.

Ask:

How do I want to feel today?

How do I want to feel in this situation?

Then use those feeling words as a filter for what you pick out.

It does not have to be a brand new combination of things. It does not have to be a brand new outfit you have never worn before. It can be, of course, but right now we are working on aligning your feelings with your expression, your clothes, that day.

So it might be something you have worn before, but now you are using your feeling words as a guide.

Step Three, Get Dressed And Walk Out Confident

Then you find your pieces, you get dressed, you walk out the door, and you feel more confident because you feel aligned with what you are wearing.

Remember, feeling words are not just for special occasions. They can simply be the mood you are in.

You can wake up and say, I want to feel energized today, and you lead with that word.

Or you can use feeling words to get you out of a mood. Maybe you are feeling down and not feeling like wearing certain things. You can say:

Actually, to get me out of this mood, I want to feel bright. I want to feel happy. I want to feel [your word here].

Then you can help shift your mood by what you wear.

Feeling words do not have to be attached to a special occasion. They can be the mood you want to portray that day.

The Deeper Point, From Look To Feeling

The point of all of this is that we are trying to switch fashion from just a look to a feeling.

In order to do that, it is important to get in touch with how you want to feel that day, then align your clothes with that instead of the other way around.

So we are:

Starting with the feeling,

Then aligning our clothes with that,

Instead of starting with the clothes and just hoping we randomly feel the way we want to feel.

If we only go with how we want to look that day, that look might not be in tune with the rest of our body. Then we miss the mind, heart, body connection that we are aiming for.

When you get more aligned throughout your whole body, you boost your confidence and you radiate in style.

So if you are going to your closet and you do not know where to start, one of my easiest go to methods is to start with feeling words.

What Is Coming Next In The Challenge

Okay, that is it for Day 14.

The last two weeks of this 30 day challenge are going to be all about implementing. We are not going to be learning much that is brand new. I might help you with some mindset pieces, but we are moving into implementation of the style formulas I have been teaching you.

We start that on Day 17. Right now we are on Day 14.

In the next couple of days, we will:

Talk about how we are going to implement for the next two weeks,

Set that up together,

Talk about organization in your closet,

And get ourselves ready so we can approach the last 14 days with success.

These will basically be little mini challenges inside this big challenge to help you implement all the formulas you have learned. I know it is a lot of information, and now we are going into implementation mode.

When you implement, the negative voices might rise up again. Then you will come back to the mindset tools. Then you will work on another style formula. The negative voices might come up again.

We are going to keep tackling and tackling and tackling.

We are going to come out so strong at the end of these 30 days. You will have go to resources for those moments when you are looking at your closet and you do not know where to start.

All right, my friends, this is Casey, your fashion bestie. Let me know if you have any questions, and I will be back tomorrow.