DAY 12: 30 Day NO-BUY Challenge

Getting Dressed When Everything Else Feels Heavy

We are on day 12 of our 30 day no buy challenge, and its a heart-to-heart.

We are choosing to take care of ourselves even when the world or our personal life feels really heavy. Instead of going down the negative spiral we start with what we can control to shine a little brighter.

We also talk about that being stylish is about two things, effort and personality. 

Today’s reminder is simple, even on hard days we can support ourselves by getting dressed with a little intention and remembering that we are absolutely stylish when we show up as ourselves.

 

ACTION STEPS:

1. Wear something bright today
   • Choose a fun dress, brighter color, or extra accessories, even if you feel heavy or low.
2. Check in with yourself using two questions
   • Did I put some effort into my outfit today?
   • Is my outfit showing my personality today?
3. Notice and name the guilt
   • When you feel guilty for taking care of yourself, gently remind yourself that starting with you helps you show up better for everyone else.
4. Reframe “stylish” in your mind
   • Look at other people’s style, even if it is not your taste, and practice seeing effort and personality instead of judging or comparing.

 

FULL TRANSCRIPT

Hello, I'm Casey, your fashion bestie. You're on day 12 of the 30 day no by challenge, and together we are sparking a fashion wellness revolution, using style confidence to build a healthier relationship with your closet and with yourself.

Thank you for taking a pause in your buying with me, and let's dive in today 12.

I had a whole other thing I was gonna talk on, and that will come tomorrow, but I really felt called to talk about when we have such negative things happening around us that we don't feel like getting dressed and taking care of ourselves.

I know for me right now, the state of the world, which I think everyone's feeling, is heavy. But this could also mean personal stuff. Maybe you're going through a really hard time with your kids. Maybe you're going through a really hard time in your marriage. Maybe it's just that you had a bad day. And a lot of the times we do not want to get up and take care of ourselves and get dressed.

But I think that this is the most important time that we do. Because my take on it is if we can take the efforts to feel a little bit better about ourselves, to shine a little bit brighter, no matter what is happening around us, we will all be better people, and we will all treat each other better.

Sometimes I feel really guilty for wanting to take care of myself when all this stuff around me is going to shambles. And sometimes I feel like it's a really selfish thing for wanting to have self-love and take care of myself when maybe I feel like my energy should be putting outwards towards other things.

But I think we need to start with us. I think we need to start with us first and taking care of ourselves, showing up brighter, still being us, showing up bolder, and everything else will work itself out and fall into place.

I think if we go down in the deep hole and stay negative, and we don't take care of ourselves, everything else is harder to get out of. So start with what we can. And if that means putting on a fun dress, putting on a brighter color, maybe putting on some more accessories, go with that, and lead with that, and see if we can improve what else is around us, and maybe we can't. But at least, we can start with us and feel better about ourselves.

I just wanted to interrupt everything else that I had planned because I just felt really called to say that. So if you are feeling heaviness, start with maybe wearing something bright.

Okay? The other thing that I wanted to bring in was what makes a person stylish? This is a little bit lighter of a topic, and I thought, heck, let's talk about this today.

So what makes a person stylish? Like, I have a friend that's a blogger who wears things that I would never wear, but she's still super stylish. So if I'm wearing opposite things than she is, and she's not my style at all, how is she still stylish, and I'm still stylish, and then the next person can still be stylish, when it's not all about trends, so to say?

So I broke it down, and I think it comes down to 2 things. Number one, effort, and number two, personality. Are you putting a little effort into your outfit today, and are you showing a little bit of your personality?

I think it doesn't have to really do with trends. I don't think it has to do with what's in style and what's in the stores. I think it literally comes down to effort. If you see a person and they put a little effort into their outfit that day, you're like, dang, there's some cool effort there. And then when you see some personalities shining through, then you're like, oh my gosh, look at that, that person is really stylish.

So when you're thinking about getting dressed in the morning and you're wondering if you're stylish, all you have to do is ask, well, did I put some effort into my outfit today, and is my outfit showing my personality today? If you're yes on both, then you're absolutely stylish.

So I think that is a rule to go by when you are just like, ooh, am I stylish? Just effort and personality. Super simple.

All right, my friends, that is a simple day 12. Like I said, I have this whole other thing planned, and that will come tomorrow. But I just kind of felt called to talk about this. And I hope that gives you a little momentum when you're kind of feeling stuck or down. And I just wanted to encourage you to keep going.

So my friends, I am Casey, your fashion bestie. I am here for you. Like I said, I'm your biggest cheerleader. Send me any sort of questions you might have. And you got this. All right, I'll be back tomorrow.